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You are a XPIT–Expressive Practical Intellectual Taker. This makes you a Manager.

eXpressive: 7/10
Practical: 7/10
Physical: 3/10
Giver: 1/10

You are cool, thoughtful and intelligent. Your approach and your sense of humor are under-the-radar, your charm is undeniable. You keep everything under control. You have distinctive vocal mannerisms. You may not have much interest in approaching strangers, but when you do, you are successful.

You will probably end up with someone beautiful, fascinating and off-balance. While your partner may steal the limelight, it’s you that keeps things running smoothly and provides stability in your relationship. If you are with someone as contemplative and hard-headed as you, you can have a tough time.

Your greatest asset is that you tackle conflict as it rises — you don’t ignore it and let it brew. If you have a partner that *does* let it brew, it will make you crazy! You can find yourself fighting for two — trying to anticipate your partner’s needs and draw their feelings out — which is exhausting and, well, not your job.

You would never cheat. You would make an excellent spouse. When your spouse’s friends met you, they would think, “Crap, why couldn’t I get that one?”

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Interpret as you will. Thanks to Kejia for the link.

was in harvard square, talking on my cell, walked past a blonde girl in a light brown leather jacket, we locked eyes for a moment, there was a definite click, i walk faster and pass her (nerves?), then think better of it and turn around after finishing my conversation (not exactly sure what i was going to do), but then she’s gone…

finding neverland - a good movie, the sorrow at the end makes the beauty sharper. excellent acting by all members of the cast, esp. depp and winslet.

national treasure - a fun romp… mr. gates (the film character, not bill) has a mech eng masters from MIT (they say so in the film!) and thus i find myself cheering for him when he meets a sexy foreign-born american history buff smart blonde girl… ;)

Several (lengthy) conversations with wise friends have resulted in what might be called “a coming to an understanding.” Thanks to all those who gave their time in conversations/messages with me on this topic. I know I’ve exhausted many of you with my continual questions, but I think I got it now ;)

A common refrain I heard in these conversations, was the following and similar variants:
Only when you stop seeking your perfect other half can you find her.

At first this seemed counterintuitive to me. How would stopping to look help me to find?

But upon closer analysis, one can arrive at a conclusion similar to the one below (and this is what inspired this post)…

In seeking constantly you’re focused on critical analysis of other people — which is not the best way to look at people (check, her hair is the right color, check, appropriate length, check — are those eyes blue? oh wait, no, they’re green — cross-off-list) and thus when one stops continually weighing others then one is open to (somehow?) meeting someone who, though they may not fit all your arbitrary and fallible specifications, is perfect in the sense that they spiritually, emotionally and mentally match with the person you are. But if you were still actively seeking at the time you came across them, they won’t go for you because they’d be put off by being weighed/judged/examined according to some abstract criteria set.

This isn’t to say that in stopping to seek you no longer pay attention to girls and don’t take notice if someone catches your eye — it’s that you stop entering everyone into a vast internal analytical algorithm where you dissect their characteristics and specifications apart from the unique person they are. It’s taking a more approach to looking at humanity, with a firm belief that the whole is completely incomprehensible if looked at only as a collection of parts.

Another way of phrasing this is when you stop seeking (with your mind) you’ve freed up processor cycles for your heart to do its own delicate, non-analytical little thing called “love.”

Ideals are like stars; we will not succeed in touching them with our hands, but by following them, as the seafaring man on the ocean, we will reach our destiny.

And the sarcastic, nerdy side of me says, “You wouldn’t want to touch a star anyway — the gravitational field would be too strong for you to merely ‘touch’ a star and besides that, you’d be burned to death well before you got close to enough to touch it.”

And then of course one must ask, “What if it’s cloudy and you can’t see the stars? Do you whip out the infrared detector then? What if you accidentally get it turned around upside-down and end up sailing towards a random fish? And perhaps, in a twist of fate, that’s precisely where you needed to sail in the first place? Can destiny be the unplanned sort as well? Is all destiny, by definition, unplanned and surprising?”

Science isn’t romantic, I fear :-/

Or maybe over analysis just deflates the mystery of things. Yet I’m so naturally inclined to analyzing things…

Perhaps the solution, as terrifying as it sounds to one so reliant on thinking as I, is simply to sometimes not to think and to just let things come and go as they will.

There’s a collection of photos by a Buddhist monk on display at Simmons (my dorm); below the photos there are various inspirational quotes, among them, ones reminding us of how transitory this world is. Yet at the moment, it certainly seems as if this world clouds one’s focus entirely, the meaning of life suffocated beneath problem sets and exams. Or perhaps the path to enlightenment lies through mental toil? Four weeks, two days, left of that, at least for this semester.

Randomly browsing my quote file and came across:
It is Jesus that you seek when you dream of happiness; he is waiting for you when nothing else you find satisfies you; he is the beauty to which you are so attracted; it is he who provokes you with that thirst for fullness that will not let you settle for compromise; it is he who urges you to shed the masks of a false life; it is he who reads in your hearts your most genuine choices, the choices that others try to stifle. It is Jesus who stirs in your the desire to do something great with your lives, the will to follow an ideal, the refusal to allow yourselves to be ground down by mediocrity, the courage to commit yourselves humbly and patiently to improving yourselves and society, making the world more human and more fraternal.
– Pope John Paul II

Just struck me as true, and explains myself a bit to me… esp. self-contradictions ;)

Snarfed from :

Ten years ago, I:
1. was at home at Mattawan, Michigan
2. was on my first full year of being home schooled
3. won my MathCounts regional and was happy to go to State :P

Five years ago, I:
1. went to RSI over the summer…
2. first articulated the “policy”
3. decided to save my first kiss for the altar

One year ago, I:
1. interned at microsoft and met billg
2. spurned the “policy” and decided i’ll kiss when i damn well want to
3. lost my naviete

So far this year, I:
1. travelled europe and met the pope
2. grew up, in the fullest sense
3. remain single, but with plenty of female friends :P

Yesterday, I:
1. visited fourth east
2. talked to Jason Chu, a friend from Yale who’s visiting
3. started this philosophical mood

Today, I:
1. was going to meet debra at harvard, but she cancelled at the last minute because of being ill :(
2. talked to kavita for an hour or two over aim…
3. and also added a bunch of folks from mattawan hs on the facebook and talked to adam block (mattawan hs 01, i’ve known him since like first grade) who’s training to be a pilot over at the air force academy

Tomorrow, I will:
1. meet up with kejia for lunch
2. go to 5 o’clock mass and pray and look for cute catholic girls ;)
3. pick a pset to tackle and start tackling it

In one year, I will:
1. be an meng student
2. working on my thesis
3. continuing to take tons of photos, and perhaps travel to australia!

In five years, I will:
1. be a year out of law school and probably live in california
2. be 26, which according to the “schedule” is when i’m supposed to meet my wife ;)
3. enjoy mixing my passions for business, technology, law and helping people — and have visited 3 more countries, most probably spain or ireland, australia and new zealand

Hmm, in retrospect I’ve shared more personal details in the silly survey above than I usually do in my blog amidst philosophical rambling :Pof data analysis disadvantages and advantages900 1 sex phonetube amateur sex site1st sex analsharing amateur porn webmodel teen 16for free adult sex online gamesfoot of 56 essex regiment west Map

“You know what you want, and that’s the problem”

Those were the words I heard yesterday after about an hour or two of talking to folks over on my old hall, 4E over at East Campus. Apparently I know what I’m looking for romantically… and that isn’t very conducive to matchmaking :P

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short and sweet.

incredibles : go see it if you haven’t, great movie.

i <3 huckabees : made me go wtf? i don’t see the point and didn’t like it.